Psychology shows it’s a big mistake to base our self-worth on our professional achievements
Contemporary society has some very wrong-headed ideas about what  constitutes success. Popular thinking holds that a person who went to  Harvard is smarter and better than someone who attended Ohio State; that  a father who stays at home with his kids is contributing less to  society than a man who works at a Fortune 500 company; that a woman with  200 Instagram followers must be less valuable than a woman with two  million.   This notion of success isn’t just elitist and misguided; it actively hurts those who believe it. For my book, The Power of Meaning ,  I spoke to many people who defined their identity and self-worth by  their educational and career achievements. When they succeeded, their  lives felt meaningful, and they were happy. But when they failed or  struggled, the only thing that gave their lives value was gone—and so  they fell into despair, and became convinced they were worthless.   Writing my book taught me that being a successful person isn’t about  career achievemen...